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PAKISTANI MUSLIM PRAISES FRENCH AND SAID: EUROPEANS SHOULD CONVERT TO ISLAM. IS IT NOT NARCISSISM?

I saw a youtuber interviewing a Pakistani Muslim family and talking about how they got a visa to live here. that person was not informed about the basis for the visa. but one sentence I noted is 'they are very good in every walk of life, only if they recite 'kalma' means become Muslim, they will go to heaven'. i was thinking hahaha. o innocent Pakistani . it is not that radical Islam here therefore it's great and good if there will radical Islamic laws laws and practices it will be hell like Afghanistan or Pakistan. If you want to continue to be radical Muslim go to these countries. So today's topic is this, which I will write briefly. that these countries and their constitution are the result of centuries of human experience in every walk of life, values of morality. more than 100 years ago they discovered that religion is an expired medicine and the laws or principles defined in radical Islam was human thinking of that time which is not relevant today.so they build the laws, rules and principals secular, devoid of any concern with religious orders. because those orders were written by men to maintain discipline when human thinking or awareness was not at the stage of understanding each other's opinion and individual matters regarding decision making for the betterment of society. so they introduce secularism according to which, religion will become an individual choice. It has nothing to do with actions or matters of government. and the government will be elected by vote of majority, that is democracy, where opinion and choice of the majority is respected. In Radical Islam there is no concept of democratic values. also it does not offer a system of equality between its followers and people belonging to other religions. For women, there are strict laws to be followed. There is a system devised for reward and punishment which is not applicable in today's messy problems. Furthermore, the causes of crimes are investigated and researched by scientists which propose that those people are having mental instability or they are doing so by some natural need or these are done by compulsion of human need. so should not be tackled as a simple act of crime and punishment. current technology, amenities and problems are so much new about which no religion was aware. So if the written rules and regulations are not seen even in radical Islamic countries. it means there is no radical Islam left. radical Muslims are just a name given to people by their parents and this is because those regulations cannot be implemented .If implemented, it will be against human nature, human survival and risk to life itself. for which religions claim to be launched. therefore, i am saying, if radical Islamic regulations implemented here in Europe as wished by unaware radical Muslims (i know many of my friends who are doing PhD and lived here for decades, still do not understand the reality of the religion so i will call them unaware. it become Afghanistan or Pakistan where radical Muslims not want to live.

یورپ میں پوری دنیا سےلوگ آتے ہیں پر صرف مسلم ہی یہاں کےمعاشرےمیں ایڈجسٹ نہیں ہوتے۔ کیوں؟

 

میں حیران ہوتا ہوں کہ یورپ میں پوری دنیا سےلوگ آتے ہیں پر صرف مسلم ہی یہا ں کےمعاشرےمیں ایڈجسٹ نہیں ہوتے ، گھلتے ملتے نہیں، سوسائٹی میں کنٹریبیوٹ نہیں کرتے ۔ اور تو اور اچھی زندگی تک نہیں گزارتے۔ اگر ریسٹورنٹ میں کارکرتے ہیں تو اسی میں لگے رہتے ہیں کہ آسپاس کا پتہ بھی نہیں ہوتا۔ ہمارے قریب ایک ریسٹورنٹ تھا وہاں کوئی پاکستانی کام کرتے تھے ہم نے ایک دن ان سے پوچھا کہ یہاں قریبی کوئی اسڑابیریز کے فارمز ہیں۔ وہ 30 سال سے یہاں ہیں اور انکو معلوم نہیں ۔ ہمیں ایک فرینچ سے ہی پتہ چلا۔ یہ تو چھوٹی سی بات تھی۔ میں نے انڈینز کو پارٹی میں، یا بار میں یا ویسے ہی مقامی لوگوں کے ساتھ دیکھا، نہ صرف بات کرتے بلکہ پیتے ہوئے،یا گھومتے ہوئے پر کسی عام پاکستانی کو نہیں ۔دراصل میں شایداصل موضوع سے ہٹ گیا ہوں۔ کہنا مجھے یہ ہے کہ جب مسلمان یورپ آتے ہیں تو انکو پتہ نہیں ہوتا کہ1 یہ اسلامی ملک نہیں ہے، ہہاں پر شراب بھی پی جاتی ہے جو کہ ماڈریشن میں پی جائے تو صحت، دل و دماغ کے لئے فائدمند ہے، جو کہ زندگی کو ایک سرشاری کی کیفیت میں دنیاکی خوبصورتی کو دیکھنے کا اپنا ہی ایک انداز پیش کرتی ہے. انسان زندگی کے ایک اسرار کوجاننے کی مزیدارتگ ودو میں لگنے کی خواہش محسوس کرتا ہے۔2 لوگ صاف ستھرا گوشت کھاتے ہیں جن کو یہ حرام سمجھتے ہیں اور یہ لوگ حلال حرام کا چکر شروع کردیتے ہیں۔ 3 اسکولوں میں انسانیت کی تعلیم دی جاتی ہے کسی خاص مذھب کی نہیں تو پھر یہ اپنی مسجدوں میں تبلیغ کرکے معصوم بچوں اور ناواقف بے شعور لوگوں کا اور دماغ خراب کرتے ہیں۔ کچھ تو جاکرمعصوم انسانوں پر حملے کردیتے ہیں ۔کچھ لڑکے لوگوں پر چھری چلانے لگتےہیں۔4 لباس موسم کے مطابق پہنا جاتا ہے اور یہ لوگ اپنا پرانا سا توب، شلوارقمیص اورسخت گرمی میں بھی برقعہ حجاب وغیرہ پہنتے ہیں۔ انکے لباس کو بے حیائی والا سمجھتے ہیں بلکہ یہ تو ان سے اخلاق میں صدیوں آگے ہیں ۔ یہ سمجھ چکے ہیں کہ گھٹیہ سوچ یا بے حیائی والی سوچ اور ریپ والے واقعات انسانی جبلتوں اور ضرورتوں کو زبردستی کچلنے سے پیدا ہوتی ہے۔ ایسے اچھے اور موسم کے مطابق لباس کو نایاب کرنے اور انسانی جسم کو چھوٹی سوچ کی وجہ سے چھپانے اور اس لباس اور کاموں کو نایاب کرنے سے فرسٹریشن بڑھتی ہے اور گھٹیہ سوچ پروان چڑھتی ہے۔ پھر وہی گند اور عیاشی کا ماحول بنتا ہے جو سعودیہ سے آنے والے میرے رشتہ دار بیان کرتے ہیں۔ اور پاکستان میں ہونے والے بہیمانہ، وحشیانہ ریپ اس کا ثبوت ہیں۔ قبروں سے لاش نکال کر ریپس اور گھروں میں ہونے والے ماریٹل اور انسیسٹیل ریپس اس ماحول کو عیاں کرتے ہیں جو غیر عقلی اور مذھبی جذباتیت کی بنا پر رائج کی گئی پابندیوں کی وجہ سے 

ایسے واقعات کو جنم دیتی ہیں جو رپورٹ تک نہیں ہوتے۔ نوجوان اسی وجہ سے ہر وقت فرسٹریشن کا شکار رہتے ہوئے زندگی میں اپنی صلاحیتوں سے ہاتھ دھو بیٹھتے ہیں اور ایسی ہی جاھلانہ میل جول کی پابندیوں میں ہی الجھے رہنے کی وجہ سے اپنا وقت بجائے صلاحیتوں کو استعمال کرنے کے بچارے اسی آسودگی کو پورا کرنے کے مختلف طریقوں میں لگ جاتے ہیں جبکہ یورپ اور مغرب میں اس ضرورت سے فورن فارغ ہوکرنوجوان اپنے کاموں میں لگ جاتے ہیں۔جیسے کام کے دوران بھوک لگی کھانا کھایا اور کام کے تسلسل کو جاری رکھا۔ پر مسلموں کے بھیجے میں ایسا فلسفہ ایسی عاقلانہ اور سمجھدارانہ سمجھ گھستی ہی نہیں اور الزام لباس کو دیتے ہیں، آزادانہ ماحول کودیتے ہیں اور اپنا بیوقوفانہ فلسفہ نہ صرف ہر جگہ گھسانے کی کوشش کرتے ہیں بلکہ دوسروں پر بھی اپنی اس مدہ خارج اسلامی سوچ کو تھوپنے کی کوشش کرتے ہیں۔ پھر مظلامیت کا ڈرامہ تو انکا سب سے پرانہ ھتھیارہے۔

بلاول، بھارت یاترا اورسازشی مفروضوں میں سے ایک مفروضہ

کیا یہ میرا ایک گھٹیہ اندازہ ، سازشی مفروضوں کے بھنڈار سے متاثر سوچ ہے یا ذرا سی حقیقت پسندانہ بات؟َ

ویسے تو پاکستان میں ہمیشہ ہی کرائسس رہا ہے پر اب جبکہ اسٹیبلشمنٹ کے دو دھڑے آپس میں اقتدار کے لئے رسہ کشی میں لگے ہوئے ہیں۔ اوراس اشرافیہ جس میں انکے چمچے سیاستدان، خریدے ہوئے صحافی، رئیل اسٹیٹ بزنسمین وغیرہ شامل ہوتے ہیں انکو عوام کے مسائل سے کچھ لینا دینا نہیں ہوتا اور میڈیا کو ہمیشہ وہ اپنی ایک کٹھ پتلی کی طرح نچاتے ہیں جس میں جھوٹی، غیرضروری، لایعنی خبریں شامل ہوتی ہیں جو عوام کو ملوں کے چورن کی طرح بیچتے ہیں۔ ایسے میں جب عدالتی بحران اور سیاسی کشمکش ہو تو وہ عوام کو شاکس دینے کی پلاننگ میں لگے رہتے ہیں۔ آپ چاہے اقوام متحدہ کی پوری انویسٹیگیشن رپورٹ پڑھ لیں، چاہے اسکاٹ لینڈ یارڈ کی، یا کچھ صحافیوں کے کالمز یا کتاب، صاف ظاہر ہوتا ہے کہ اسٹیبلشمنٹ کا بینظیر کو کیسے مارنے کا پلان تھا۔  سچ بولنے پر پابندی، سختی اور میڈیا تو اب بھی پابند ہے پر کسی حد تک اب شاید وہ زمانہ نہیں رہا کہ سلیم شہزاد جیسوں کو فوری طور پر مارا جائے جو انکے اور طالبان کے درمیان تعلقات کو عیاں کریں۔ پی این ایس مہران کے حملے میں اندرسے ملے ہووں کی بات ہو یا اے پی ایس کرانے والے احسان اللاہ احسان کا انکے ہاں مہمان ہونا۔ حمید گل سے لیکر جنرل فیض تک سب کے کرتوت طالبان کے ساتھ گٹھ جوڑ اور اس حوالے سے سب کے سامنے آچکے ہیں۔خود انکے تجربے عمران خآن کے بیانات رکارڈ پر ہیں۔ تو میں آنا اس بات پر چاہ رہا تھا کہ ایسے کرائسس جس میں فوج کی کچھ بدنامی ہونے لگے تو وہ ہمیشہ ایڈونچرزم کاسہارا لیتے ہیں چاہے اس میں قیمتی انسانی جان ہی کیوں نہ چلی جائے، انسانی زندگی ہی کیوں نہ ضایع ہوجائے یا عوام کے لیڈر کی جان لینے کی نوبت آجائے۔ ماضی میں سیاستدانوں کا قتل، صحافیوں کا قتل سے صحافی واقف ہی ہیں۔ ایسے میں بلاول جسکی ماں کو جنہوں نے مارا انہی کے جوتے چاٹتے ہوئے بلاول نے مودی کے بارے میں جو غیر ڈپلومیٹک، غیر مناسب اور غیر اخلاقی بیان دیا اسکی بہت سارے سمجھدار انٹلیکچئل شخصیات نے مذمت کی ہے  اور ایسی امید عمران خان جیسے بد زبان سے تو سب کی ہوتی ہے پر بلاول میں کچھ تو اسکے باپ دادا اور ماں جیسا ظرف اور سمجھ ہونی چاہیے تھی۔ جہاں تک مودی کے بارے میں بات کا تعلق ہے اس واقعے کی تفصیل اور گہرائی میں جانے کی ضرورت ہے ، سنی سنائی اور اشرافیہ کی پیدا کردہ اس ہندو اور انڈیا نفرت پر بس سن کے ہی آمنا صدقنا نہیں بولنا چاہیے۔ انکے سپریم کورٹ کا فیصلہ ہی پڑھ لیں جو آپ کو تحقیق پر مجبور کرسکتا ہے اگر آپ سچ جانناچاہتے ہیں۔ اس میں بلکل غلط فہمی بھی ہوسکتی ہے پر انڈیا کے سپریم کورٹ پرانکی بہترین رپیوٹیشن کی وجہ سے شک کرنا بہت بڑی غلطی ہوگی۔ معاف کیجئے گا وہاں کا عدالتی نظام ہمیشہ آزاد اور خود مختار اور غیر جانبدار رہا ہے جبکہ یہاں کے عدالتی فیصلوں میں اقلیتوں اور توحین جیسے مذھبی فیصلوں کے حوالے سے انصاف سے زیادہ مذھبی جانبداری واضح نظر آتی ہے۔ جبکہ انڈیا کے  سیکیولر آئین اوربرابری والے قوانین کی وجہ سے آج مسلمان وہاں پاکستان سے زیادہ خوشحال ہیں اور یہاں مسلمان ہندو کے ختم ہونے کا انتظام کرتے آئے ہیں۔ بحرحال بات پھر کسی اور طرف چلی گئی۔ تو یہاں کے عدالتی نظام کے آزاد اور غیر جانبدار ہونے کا پاکستان کا اچھاچاہنے والے سیاستدان، صحافی، معاشی ایکسپرٹ ، وکلا، عوام وغیرہ بس خواب ہی دیکھتے رہے ہیں جو کبھی شرمندہ تعبیر ہونے کی امید بھی نہیں کہ اسٹبلشمنٹ اس پر سے اپنا ہاتھ اٹھانے کو راضی ہی نہیں ہوئی۔ تو ایسے کرائسس میں جبکہ فوج کے خلاف ماحول پی ٹی آئی کے اپنے مفادات کے لئے ہی سہی گرم ہو اورپھر کچھ صحافی اور لکھاری بھی اس سچ کو بار بار لکھیں، دوسری طرف جو عوام کی معاشی بدحالی، غربت، تعلیم اور صحت کی بد ترین حالت ہو۔ جس میں کرتا دھرتا اور سیاستدان کچھ بھی نہ کررہے ہوں ، الٹا عوام کو غیر ضروری بحثوں میں میڈیا کے ذریعے الجھا کے رکھا ہو پرپھر بھی وہ کافی نہ ہوپائے تو روایتن یہ ملڑی اسٹبلشمنٹ اپنا خونی کھیل کھلینے کا پلان بناتی ہے ۔انہیں انسانی جان کی پرواہ تو کبھی رہی نہیں، چاہے وہ بلوچوں کا قتل عام ہو، پشتونوں کا، نئے سندھی ایم کیو ایم یا پرانے سندھیوں کا۔ وہ صحافی ہو ،مقبول لیڈر یا مقبول لیڈر کا بیٹا۔ شاید میں سرے سے ہی اس خیال کے بارے میں غلط ہوں پر جسطرح کی پاکستان کی تاریخ اور معاملات رہے ہیں۔ اس بار عوام کو ایک بڑا شاک دینے، اپنی انڈیا کے بارے میں اہمیت اورزیادہ بڑھانے اور سارا بجٹ لینے کے حقدار ٹھہرنے ، انڈیا اور ہندونفرت کو مزید تقویت دینے اور عوام کا دھیان اصل مسائل سے ہٹانے کے لئے خدانخواستہ بلاول کو انڈیا میں نہ ٹارگٹ کریں۔ دعا ہے کہ یہ میرا بس ایک گھٹیہ اندازہ ہی ہو۔   

NARCISSIM, IMPOSITION AND BLOW TO EUROPEAN VALUES. The easily observable phenomenon

 

I have been fond of movies since childhood. I started watching these at the age of about 6 or 7. I had not left any Bollywood movies. Later, I  started watching Hollywood and foreign movies. Some I  still remember are ‘Chengez khan’, ‘Waterloo’, ‘Sahara’, ‘Bridge at Remington’, ‘Alexander’ and many others. Watching movies from childhood is bit like an antidote  which can protect you from religious dogmatic ideology which affected weak minds of many who are still killing by suicide bombing, bomb blasts, massacre, genocide, hate speech and trying of imposition of shariah law in the Whole World. 

From many years I think a lot of times why most people who belong to only this religion want to keep expired laws forever. They want to behold the whole world which reflects their narcissism. They want to eliminate all other philosophies, living styles, and thinking processes. We see it everywhere that no other religion is trying to impose itself .That is just expressing itself what it is and its people's choice to embrace it or not. like Buddhism, Hinduism and Christianity. Yes there are missionaries who propagate Christianity like Muslim ‘Tablighi jamaat’ but it seems they and many of their noted personalities cannot bear any criticism like that of Hinduism or Christianity. 

In my childhood I became aware of the fact that Christianity is the world's biggest religion and it was so only due to its philosophy of not only forgiveness but letting others offend you more than he want. Which is evident from this famous sentence" if someone slapped you on one cheek, present the other" and so was the philosophy of Gandhi who got freedom for the whole India without bloodshed. But religion again became the reason and the main accusable philosophy for bloodshed that's why thousands of Hindus and Muslims killed by each other during 1947 partition. 

The way of many Islamic propagation looks fascist. I have listened to many dialogues in movies about criticizing “Bhagwan”, the Hindu god and Jesus or god by Hindus and Christians' themselves respectively, but never saw Muslims criticize that of themselves which they regard as their god. According to some extremist factions, this god hates all other religions except Islam. According to their translation of holy scripture it narrates that the god has chosen only this religion to be followed (Almaida 3). 

The clerics such as Tariq Jameel, Mufti Masood, who on one hand criticize West, Jews and Europeans and on the other hand making millions by using their created platforms like TV, Social Media Platforms etc. remember breaking of TVs outside mosques on every Friday sermons in my childhood ordered by same type of goons. But now they are using the internet which is the next invention after tv. They and Muslims still use transport, electricity, medicines for diseases etc. invented by Jews or non Muslims . 

My point is it's a collective treasure for all the mankind, not to be restricted or used only by Europeans or West but the point is then why they criticise West and Europe and the great scientists and personalities who played role in making the world a better place, invented many things to ease the life, created minimal processes for production, eradicate many many diseases by research and invention of medicine, vaccines and so on. Did a lot in the field of psychology, human thinking, catalyze the human thinking for living a better life by applying principles of equality, justice. They digged the place from where this morality comes. Who the hell are these extremist and dogmatic religions to take ownership of devising morality? It's natural and it's evolving. Rather dogmatic religion is obstruction in the way of exercising morality in a true way. 

So I was defining the narcissism of/ these preachers ,or maulanas. So is the psyche of most common Muslims. They want to come to Europe for a better life but still hate non Muslims. And the worse they want to impose their type of laws and opinions on others.

There should be no religion which cannot be criticized. After all these all are philosophies of the past. And except this narcissist religion, no other religion is imposing its type of laws on the majority. There is no other religion, whose followers are segregating and isolating themselves from the vibrant majority, why they do not want to merge with society here to make the values strong. The values of morality, the values of humanity, equality, justice, freedom. Is this not Narcissism? 

Is it 9/11, 7/7, 26/11, Belgium attacks, Paris attacks, Sweden attacks, Charlie Hebdo and many other atrocities done only to curb the freedom of expression. It looks like these fascists are winning. They are deep rooted and they are murdering people, scattering the fabric of society of its greatest moral values: the equality, fraternity, egalitarian and the authorities are letting them to do by placing such remarks (By Courts in Europe and India made judgements on curtailing freedom of expression restricting it from critics on this religion). 

All religions are peaceful . They became peaceful and they reformed as evolution of human consciousness, understanding of things and natural mechanisms evolved. But some factions of only this religion is still not peaceful. It still want to dominate and its followers are doing anything for that by massacre, by propaganda and by influencing the innocent European authorities. They gave these millions the refuge and facilities same as their citizens enjoy which they do not earn or deserve. Because they themselves not belief in that equality. Look at behaviors of masses of majority of Muslims to Non-Muslims in Pakistan, Saudi Arabia, Iran and many other Muslim countries. They do not treat non Muslims equally. 

It was asked from Maulana Maududi that “if according to his theory, Pakistan is a Muslim majority therefore Non-Muslims will be considered second class citizens and they will always be unequal and Muslims can make them servants or regard them as a lower type of humans. If it is so, India being Hindu majority, therefore, can they behave same with Muslims?. He said yes. Then why Muslims want Secularism in India but Islam in Pakistan as state religion. Even they want Islamic rigid laws in Western and European countries. This is the condition of ordinary innocent Muslims who are brainwashed and still do not understand that it's impossible. Evolution never works backward. so they become frustrated and practice violent ways and secretly support the fascist ways to dominate Islam in the world. Ghazwa-e-Hind is an agenda which looks very silly in this age. 

My request is to European people and authorities who are letting this fascism enhanced. When Macron, the French president, in the debate with marine le pen said: 'it will be a civil war if hijab is banned everywhere'. it means he is buying that silly and shitty invaluable argument that because journalists exercise their right of freedom of expression, they must be killed because according to European court judgement . Talking about the big personalities of Muslims is not freedom. It means you are still letting sellers of 'expired medicine' sell their medicine in bulk to the innocent young generation and European masses.  T

There is a lot to say in this regard and I will continue to write about it. For now I just end this writing with the phrase. “You have let the time bomb in your lands and by such decisions and remarks and not taking any action to diffuse it, letting it cover most areas to explode”.

A BLOW TO THE GREAT EUROPEAN CULTURE AND VALUES BY SETTLERS (A STORY OF TINY LIBRARIES IN EUROPEAN VILLAGE

 We moved to a beautiful village in France. Most of the habitants in the village are Turkish Muslims. Others included from Georgia, Syria, Afghanistan, Ukraine and from Arab countries. The Turkish  have built their big community center,mosque and set up a big market. Besides this big mosque and their community center, there is another mosque near the Institution for families or place where we go 2 days a week for 2 hours per day to learn the language. It's the CASF, where I found an association who arranges and maintains activities such as arts, sports and events  for families living in this village. With the kind help of our teacher, I also registered all 5 of us in the family. We moved to this village in December 2021 and after 6 months I found out about it. In my whole life, I confess to being very slow everywhere in life. I attended a program which was about a talk given by a professor on ‘Religious studies’. She talked about 'which type of humans need religion or how religion is still part of many'  . I am not sure about the topic title but it's a talk about religion and society. It was in the French language so I did not understand it fully but a little. 

Before summer vacation last year in this beautiful village, in spring I saw that very small house type cupboards were made in many of the vicinity of  the village. I saw these near the supermarket, near the train station, in the park and many other places. I see a trend or habit of book reading in the whole Europe that is their reason for progress. I was fond of books in my childhood and still checked many books, but all were in French. I was checking whenever I went to the park or Supermarket . Once I got an English book, I took it and read it all and placed it back after a few days. Some Other times I have seen many English books near the train station. I have brought them home. It is a very healthy activity for people who want to read free books. They can take it free from these tiny houses like cupboards, read and place back for others to read. Similarly the books they have purchased and read, they can place here for others to read. Many of them are on fiction, some on history also but in French. 

The thing which shocked me and later I guessed the reason behind it. So it must be expressed. One day the park, where I always take the kids to play. I found the books scattered here and there. I took it all and went to that cupboard in the park. Cupboard’s door was broken but I can keep the books inside. While I was keeping them inside, one of them was 'kamasutra'. I often see many Setters families come here. and some boys also from that community. I was shocked that it is a good activity to take and place books to read but why is this cupboard broken and it looks like some people violently broke the door and scattered the books. I guessed it's the Turkish people who are more than 13 percent of the population living in this village. I wondered what type of mentality they have. Though it is obvious and I understand that the muslims never lose or change their mentality for years and years, no matter if that is an expired philosophy of life or based on dark ages type mentality. I thought they have been living here for more than 30 years but still they have the same old expired mentality. I pity that what has Europe done to take millions of these minds which changed the whole concept of freedom of speech and blunt artistic approach is at stake which was the essence of enlightenment of Europe. Sorry to say but these refugees or majority of settled muslims are ruining all that. They are trying to impose their type of thinking all over Europe. They are successful doing this in the UK, Canada, Australia, America, Germany and almost all European countries. It's very sad.

It leads me to 2 more happenings and there are more things which are curbing and minimizing the environment of fullness of life, real concept of freedom of expression and the very meaning of progressive thinking. 

I was shocked when in the debate, President Macron said to Madam Marine le pen that 'it will give rise to civil war if we ban hijab'. 

Secondly, I went through a case in which a European court decided: 'talking or expressing one's opinion about any religious personality is not freedom of expression'. Why a human cannot be criticized due to his affiliation or behavior or whatsoever which is told by men themselves. 

How Europeans themselves are diminishing and restricting their own values which they set after a long term struggle of abolishing tyrannical and brutal hold of religion over state, over the people. Why are there boundaries to freedom of speech when it's not physically torturing anyone. It is one's expression of opinion. Whatever it is, it should not be curbed. It can be neutralized or fought or contrasted only by another opposite opinion but should not be restricted to express. It's like you are 'prisoning the freedom' and saying:” you are free to express what you want”. Its best human modern equality, liberty values that's why they left their lands to have a good life here. Who does not know the value of most modern humanistic rights, morality and approach to life. 

Instead of educating and changing their thinking, you let yourself be embraced by their old, fascist and expired values. So it was a shocking revelation.

They are increasing their population, brainwashing kids, young people for killing humans, for suicide bombing. and there are many incidents of rapes in Germany, UK did by these settlers. Most of them are Pakistani Muslims. A lot of incidents by refugees of Sweden and Denmark. On one hand, they are beggars, on the mercy of state housing and earning for survival and on the other hand imposing their fascist laws and restrictions to humans around them. 

I am ending this article on this phrase. An author of books on history once said to me, ''by letting these people live and settle in Europe, Europe has placed a time bomb in its lands''.

THE PROBLEM OF REQUISITION OF DRESS WITH MORALITY IN PAKISTANI AND MUSLIM SOCIETY. (Observations & Suggestions)

 

It's all a psychological problem or a mindset everywhere, not only with Muslims in Pakistan but in Saudi Arabia, Turkey, Iran and other Muslim countries even with Muslims living in West and European countries. I think that's why I see women covered in burqas or hijab in the hottest season of summer. Dresses do not represent or show the behavior or morality of the person but they think so. Another possibility is they regard it bad only due to blind following of what is told to them about Islam by millionaire “molvies”. What scripts are preached, they are unaware of their patriarchal nature and that it was men who wrote those. According to several ‘Ahadiths’ regarded as sayings of Prophet Mohammad by majority of Muslims all over the world, Women are dumb, not have enough wisdom, capability and physical strength like men. I think that's why  they deserve half of their heritage according to them. But it is proved that in no sense women are less mature, wise and capable of doing anything which men can do. Religious scriptures are all written at the time when men were not aware about the abilities and capabilities of women. so they regard them silly, foolish, a thing to use, slaves for sex and birth machine . Therefore, they devised rules, regulations and restrictions for them. It is regarded as taboo to talk about dressing for women in muslim societies. 

Once music, press, photo, radio, television were forbidden and still are in many parts of these societies. I remember my father told me that when I informed his mother about radio that someone is singing somewhere else and we can listen to it on this device. She said:” Why do you talk like infidels”. The dress, music and likewise religious orders holding rigid interpretation are reformed by scholars like Ghamidi who see burqa as a culture, not a religious order. Likewise, he found sayings by The Prophet in favor of music and not against it. He was criticized too much. To majority, it is not the essence of the religion as its core purpose or teachings and therefore he had to flee Pakistan. 

To break these taboos in muslims of Pakistan, if some moderate muslims take gradual steps to change dress codes for women, it will be a matter of just a few weeks and then it will be the norm like in Europe. It will not tempt men anymore as given as a reason for rapes in Pakistan by Imran Khan, former prime minister. And that is actually a senseless reasoning. That’s why I agree with Tarek Fatah’s understanding of Imran khan as “Person with 0 Intellect” . Its nothing in dressing for temptation to rape, but its a hoarding of frustration, which is denial or senseless restriction to one of the basic human need or instinct. In Pakistan, what I observed is that the younger generation wastes their prime age looking for ways to fulfill such needs and eventually they find they looser at older ages of 50s and 60s that they have not done something remarkable, when it was their time. Their all energies wasted in that phenomenon to find satisfaction for this basic human need or instinct. And of course it could have resulted in henious type of rapes, child abuse and marital rapes which are at its worst form acted in Pakistan. Just look at news reports. Millions of childrens abused, little girls and women raped in their houses. Even dead bodies are not safe in this filthy land. 

One of such steps to end this cruelty is permission and creating an environment for consensual sex between young people. For this and many other steps, there are many many things which Pakistan and muslim countries  need to learn from Europe and the West . They have nurtured generations of younger people in a way that they are living life at its best and able to show and exercise their natural and ingrained talents and capabilities in the best possible ways which made Europe heaven. They have high moral values which are now at the stage of compromise behind the influx of Muslims immigrants in Europe who are breeding as much as they can. But that is a separate topic to write about. Muslims and especially Pakistanis need to realize why they want to migrate and settle in Europe and the West. It's only because there are no senseless rules and regulations prevailing here which restrict basic human needs and those were thoroughly understood, experienced and then made laws on them accordingly. Traditional rules and regulations prevailing in Pakistan are absolutely not compatible with today's social, economic, security environment. Muslims living in Europe clearly know and observe that Europeans and English people are best humans, honest people that respect law, that do not tell lies, that do not hate others, that do not deceive others only because they are not obliged that narcissistic thinking that “Only we are the best humans on Earth. Life here in Europe is prosperous, beautiful, full of beauty, joy and progress because the constitution is not made on expired senseless, traditional rules and regulations but made properly on modern human thinking and it keep changing as human thinking progresses.      

I CAN RELATE & UNDERSTAND THE ''YOUTHIA" OR ''MAD FOR IMRAN KHAN'' MINDSET (English & Urdu)

پی ٹی آئی والوں کی سوچ کو سمجھ سکتا ہوں (In Urdu after this in English)

This word resembles another word that means foolish, stupid or more like brainwashed. And it was created for the young generation of Pakistanis who were educated wrong history, propaganda, conspiracy theories coined by establishment of Pakistanis and propagated through all the textbooks in Schools, Colleges, Media houses, Press and so called scholars; some on their payroll, some insane. Some of them do it due to their economical interests and rest still unconscious of the facts. Therefore, the brainwashed generation is like a flock of goats following a leader chosen by the establishment for their long term goals of their own economic interests, for their businesses, wealth and power. The real word is   'chootiya' from which this youthia came out. I do not know .Is it ok to write here or pass it through self-censorship? but as I am in that mood of saying things somehow bluntly so let it be. After university finished at the age of about 23,24, I got a job in a factory. I used to go to work regularly. On return, when I check that the family is watching dramas on star plus. These dramas were the one which I hated due to their commercial nature. I was fond of serious, classical, art type of dramas I watch on PTV, the state channel. What I love most were based on literature written by famous foreign or local writers, some based on societal values and behaviors. So when I see the opposite type of dramas and long long series who are all just show off with series of unwanted beats one after one, having no content, just elongation the same type of stories with silly or cheap type of dialogues, it looked very unreal. so I hated those series. Therefore, what I try to tried to not let them watch these. Sometimes I cut the cable, Sometimes do something with the TV, so that it can't show such channels. I use every tactic to keep them away from watching those dramas. After some months Indian channels were banned by the government due to pressure from dogmatic, clerical zealot religious leaders and their followers. It was a bad decision. 

Anyway until these channels were banned. I tried many things to stop family members and all others who wanted to watch those serials. After some years I understood that 'you can't change anyone's mind just by banning them from the things they are interested in or are taken by a way which they accept and it's everyone's choice like mine . Also it's not only a choice but a right until it is changed by the keeper him or herself and no one should be forced to hold the same opinion'. 

Though this awareness may be given by books I read on spirituality, philosophy, literature and sociology and more than that open to new ideas of thinking in different ways than traditional or prevalent in the society. So from last many years the behavior of these ch**tias, I mean 'youthias' is the same that they want to impose their thinking on everyone. They do the same which the establishment of Pakistan has been doing for the last 70 years to force people to think in a way they want. They force writers, journalists, media houses and individuals using tactics of murdering, abductions, forcing to, using carrot and stick policies, bribing and acting as 'Big brother is watching' as defined by George Orwell in his book 1984. So this generation of youthias is using bad immoral comments, does not respect women, and expresses their opinion in a filthy and shitty way at its worst. Not only by words but by condemnable actions. So their behavior reminds me of my behavior towards my family many many years ago to not letting them watch star plus serials and imposing my ideas over them to watch what I want for them because I feel good and I know better what to watch and what not. That was my mindset. it's like. People who are digging for the truth and have got the reality behind fabricated history taught in textbooks and propagated by the powerful establishment and all the king's men and women are criticized, blamed and maligned all the time on social media. and they want people to think like they are thinking or understood about history and affairs.  

2004، 2005 میں یونیورسٹی کے بعد میں کسی فیکٹری میں جاب کرتا تھا۔ ان دنوں کیبل کا رواج تھا اور اسٹار پلس پر گھروں پہ لمبے سیریلس چلتے تھے۔ مجھے ان سے سخت نفرت ہوتی تھی۔ میں آرٹ فلمیں، ادبی قسم کے ڈرامے دیکھنے کا عادی تھا جو پی ٹی وی پر چلتے تھے سو مجھے بناوٹی اور کمرشل قسم کے ڈراموں سے سخت چڑ ہوتی تھی۔ میں کہتا تھا انڈین فلمیں دیکھو پر ڈرامے نہیں اور خصوصن یہ بناوٹی سیریز تو ہرگز نہیں۔ اور میں یہ سمجھنے سے قاصر تھا کہ گھر میں یہ ڈرامے سب کیوں دیکھتے تھے۔ مجھے ان کے ذھنوں کا اندازہ نہیں ہوتا تھا سو بہت بار میں کیبل کی تارہی کاٹ دیا کرتا تھا۔ بہت دفعہ ٹی وی خراب کردیتا تھا۔ کبھی کیبل بند ہوجائے تو مجھے خوشی ہوتی تھی۔ میں کیونکہ تھوڑا لاڈلہ تھا اور لڑکا تھا۔ میری بہن ایسا کرتی تو بچاری کی خیر نہ تھی۔ سو بس میں کسی بھی طرح چاہتا تھا کہ گھر میں یہ ڈرامے کوئی نہ دیکھے کیونکہ میں نہیں دیکھنا چاہتا یا میرےمعیار پر پورے نہیں اترتے۔ بہت سالوں بعد کتابیں پڑھنے یا تجربوں سے یا شعور کی ترقی سے پتہ چلا اور احساس ہوا کہ اپنی سوچ اپنا معیارتھوپنے سے فائدہ نہیں بلکہ نقصان ہی ہوتا ہے اور یہ تاریخ سے بھی واضح ہے۔ جب مجھے یہ یوتھئے، یہ عمرانی سوچ والے یہ پی ٹی آئی والے کہیں کچھ بولتے ،لکھتے ، بات کرتے دکھائی دیتے ہیں تو مجھے ان پر بڑاترس آتا ہے اور اپنا وہی زمانہ یاد آتا ہےکہ میں بھی ایسا ہی ذدی ہواکرتا تھا جو اپنی سوچ سب پر مسلط کرنا چاہتا ہے۔ اور بس خود کو ہی صحیح سمجھتا ہے۔ کسی کی رائے اسے برداشت ہی نہیں ہوتی وغیرہ وغیرہ۔ سو کیا کریں کہ یہ کچھ دہائیوں کی تعلیم اور پھیلائی گئی سوچ ہے جو اس نسل میں سرائیت کر گئی ہے اور اب اچھی اور صحیح تعلیم و تربیت اور شعورسے ہی کچھ تبدیلی آسکتی ہے۔ پر کیا کریں کہ خود "تبدیلی" فلسفے کی ان یوتھیائی سوچ نے مٹی پلید کرکے رکھ دی

THE DIFFERENCE I OBSERVED WHEN REACHED EUROPE: یورپ آتے سب سے پہلا اور بڑا فرق کیا محسوس کیا؟:

 یورپ آتے سب سے پہلا اور بڑا فرق کیا محسوس کیا:

سب سے پہلا فرق جو میں نے یورپ آکر یہاں کے لوگوں اور پاکستانیوں میں دیکھا وہ تھا ججمنٹ۔ یعنی کسی کا لباس، بات چیت، رویہ، چال ڈھال، کھنا پینا، بلکہ کسی بھی رویہ پر کوئی آپکو ٹوکتا یا اپنی رائے دیتا یا حسد کرتا یا ہنستا یا بات تک کرتا ہوا نہیں دکھائی دیتا۔ اور ایسا ہے بھی ۔ دکانوں، مارکیٹوں، ہسپتالوں، آفسوں، پارکوں یا کہیں پر بھی آپکو ہیجان میں ، جلدی میں ، دوسروں کا راستہ کاٹ کر آگے نکلنے والے نہیں ملیں گے۔ یہ لوگ اپنے اچھے ایماندارانہ نظام، خیال رکھنے والی حکومتوں ، زندگی کے معاملات میں سائینس کی وجہ سے آسانیوں، بیروزگاری نہ ہونا بلکہ اپنی پسند کے شعبے میں کام کرنے، خوشحال ہونے کی وجہ سے ہر وقت خوشی اور سرشاری کی کیفیت میں رہتے ہیں۔ اسی لئے نفسیاتی طور پر اتنےنیوراٹک نہیں جیسے پاکستان  جیسے ممالک میں ہوتے ہیں

THE DIFFERENCE I OBSERVED WHEN REACHED EUROPE: 

One of the main and foremost differences I have observed between here in Europe and Pakistan is useless individual judgment by other people. In Pakistan it's everywhere. Passing of comments about how someone is looking, what is he wearing, how is he/she talking, what he eats and even they laugh at people about who they do not know. It's just an imagination of them, the way or the picture about them in their mind about other people. For them it's all about the other people . There is no concept of self contemplation or self-check or looking one's own self critically. It is obvious that everyone wants to look good .It is a natural urge in humans that is fine but judging others, laughing on them, criticizing them is normal in third world countries like Pakistan. Therefore, it's always about blaming others for all the ills of their own society, avoiding taking responsibility. Even the State Government or Authorities blame other countries for bad economical conditions, social problems in their country. For religious scholars, so called scientists and respected personalities by the majority of illiterate or unconscious people. They blame West and Europe for earthquakes, floods and famines etc. and people believe them.

While in Europe, what I observed is that no one comment on other people or judge anyone by its look, clothes, style of walking, talking or even their opinions. They take the responsibility for themselves, their society, country and do the best they can for the prosperity and serve the society. They respect others opinion. They do not hate others due to their race, color or religion which is normal in Pakistan. They let other go first. They keep good expectations for others. while in our country, its always race of me first. People in Pakistan are not genuinely happy inside. It's all due to bad economic conditions, poverty, hatred for each other, not having a prosperous life like people have here. That's why millions migrate to Europe and after reaching here, these unaware and unconscious Desis still hate them due to their culture, their religion. People living here are happy. They live life not in a neurotic condition like in Pakistan. 

Year 2022 for Me and "The Waiting" to celebrate "Happy New Year 2024"

ONCE AGAIN IT'S THE SAME NEW YEAR FOR ME AS ALWAYS TILL NOW: 

I have written this article before 1st January 2023 but due to uncertain circumstances, uploading it now as “Thinking about Last Year and coming New Year”. Let me say it completely. 

It's the end of the year again and I'm unable to attend or celebrate any special kind of event. So far, neither the work that was hoped for in the past many years has been done, nor have there been any conditions to arrange any happiness or be happy.

I absolutely do not believe in empty, useless and dreamy phrases like "Good thinking makes good things" and I am saying this after many years of experience. I spent many years reading these self-help, motivational books, listening to programs. They throw you into a fake world from which it becomes difficult to get out. After many years, you find that the change you had hoped for has turned out to be nothing but empty talk, dedication and a sense of superiority that crumbles as high as a wall of sand. falls down. Well I don't want to write more about it.

In the situation, the acquisition of basic things is fine, which includes living, food and drinking. Be it visiting museums, parks, beaches, markets, beautiful places with children or their school and school programs in which they have participated. Similarly, the language classes and tours conducted by them were very good. There was quite a bit of walking around and interacting with people. Also read some books, watch favorite programs, movies, serials, dramas. Created a YouTube channel, launched a website. Intended to write but written a little. In the same way, I talked to a couple of big people in messages and got some new experience in philosophy, history and keeping an eye on the situation. Children are happy so we are, yet still have to get the 'satisfaction' associated with something real or tangible, i.e. papers or "an assurance of forever". So that a person can start something that they want to do. It was Ireland, Sweden then another country and don't know where to stay permanently to start a business in peace, make a strategy for writing and making videos and start implementing it. .

When I came to Ireland in 2013, I waited for the degree to get a job and settle down. I got that job, got another good job, but no further visa, then had to go back because of the child's bad health. Then finding a job to support the family. For responsibilities looking for jobs, standing in big lines for the workers to get the job in filthy Factories.

Let's come to work, friends. Got a job in a factory, One in a Pharma Company, but the salary was very low and the heart was not at all satisfied. Thinking "Where did I return?". In Sweden, also there were self-constraints that I cannot go to any party, cannot do any celebration. Also There was not enough money, no car, no permanent visa. Four years have passed and that ideal time or settling point has not yet arrived. I started a YouTube channel but I don't have the money to buy a good microphone, neither the camera nor the time to read the favorite books and listen to the programs and make a good script to present it. The website has also been built but there is still a lot to do. First of all, writing content, reading books for writing, and even that hobby is not a permanent visa, nor a good source of income. In the same way, maintaining friendship is not the time to talk about the distance and I don't have the heart to talk to old friends.

There are also business ideas, but first one should ensure permanent residence in one place. So the age has passed and I am still not able to celebrate the new year or celebrate any event or celebration. And the circumstances. I don't know what is bad luck, someone's bad prayer, my own laziness, my own negligence, although my heart does not believe in these illusions, but I have not got any opportunities, so everything seems to be true.

I thought I would share something every day, if not every week. I will write two or three times and I wrote with great pride, "You will die if you don't do this" means to be an actor on social media. And did nothing but talk to friends every week. And according to this poem, I have not lived yet. I shared the essays, poetry, university performances from the register written in my youth, and made videos on it, but I hardly had time to write anything new or make already written more good or polish them.

And from the new year again, the same hope that I request it to please let me live my way. Now give me that assurance of permanent residence. Now give me financial freedom so that I can celebrate the next year i.e. 2024 in my way. So from 2023, the same hope that existed from 2013 to 2014, then started from 2018 and not been fulfilled by the end of 2022, may be done by the end of 2023.

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My Inclinations from my childhood till now: Religiosity, Spirituality & Rationality

Let's dig out the inclinations from my childhood till now.

I can divide my main inclination into 3 periods:

1. NOSTALGIC ABOUT CHILDHOOD IN VILLAGE AND A SUFI:

I was very nostalgic about my childhood in the village a couple of years ago. This state started from 2012 and 2013  when I was in Ireland to 2016. I was comparing  Waterford land areas to my village. Though it was different in terms of cleanliness and greenishness, there were still areas I could think of the same as in my village. I admire too much the things we had in our village. The freedom I had to go anywhere with my dog, picking berries, kandi, toot etc., swimming in ponds. We have a big 'kot' or a house which has many amenities (I will write in my diary) including many semi-machines. We had many types of pets and animals; rabbits, swans, hens, pigeons, goats, buffaloes, cows and a parrot also  . We have lands to cultivate not only wheat and rice but watermelons, barley, googro, tomato, chilis and other vegetables.   so this all taken-back me, how great it was.  For many years, amazed by movies and technologies, I was hoping for a long time that one day I would be able to  see my past days in the village.

Turning to my interests, when we moved to Karachi, initially I was amazed by the story books and magazines.  ‘Ankh macholi’(hide and seek), ‘Nonihal’(childhood), ‘Taleemo Tarbiyat’(Education and training) and many others were my favorites. I was reading religious books a lot. Read the Quran with translation, and many other books on Islamic read ‘kashful mehjoob’ on Sufism and many other books.  I have written a collection of ‘ayats’ on many topics. I made a file in which I was sticking ‘our heroes’ pics and posts about Pakistan, patriotism, Islam etc. I was listening to Friday Sermons and Tuesday and Thursday sermons and speeches by religious preachers. 

I was watching state television PTV a lot. I have made a schedule of all programs aired from starting at 5pm to 9 or 10 pm. Very later I had 2 channels to see PTV and STN or NTM.

When visiting my village every year during vacations for some months, I listen to radio stations for Sindhi and Urdu songs. Indian songs and classical ‘Ragas’ at night and BBCs news at 8pm regularly. Later when FM stations started, i was listening to those whole nights.

A monthly ‘Roohani digest’ (spiritual digest) was my favorite for many years. I was also reading books from my father's bookshelf. Those were hard to understand but I was feeling something great when reading. I was reading newspapers, Sunday magazines, and later books on nationalism, history, personalities, literature. 

Later the time of PTV and other channels increased from 5 to 9 to 24 hours.  More tv channels opened in 2008. Initially whatever programs were aired, I watched them all, later I had to make a choice. Including PTV’s long plays which were a trip to heaven for me, and Pakistani  movies on PTV, STN and Indian movies  on VCR in the shape of cassettes. Initially I hated Indian songs and movies . I have written a list of movies and songs copied by India. but with time, I got out of the state propaganda against India.  I was fond of  comedy  programs and cartoons. Very later I started reading books often and obliged myself to purchase some books every month. I started watching talk shows.  In newspapers, we were getting ‘jang’(war) newspapers. Later my father started ‘Dawn’. I started reading columns in addition to news.  My favorite columnists were Nadeem Farooq Paracha, Abbas Nasir, Babar Sattar, Hassan Nisar and many others. I was spending too much time playing games on my pc and Sony PlayStation brought by a relative from Saudi. I became addicted to such programs on politics, history and current affairs that in Ireland during studies, I started watching those again secretly in rooms of the college. The Pakistanis living with me s were of opposite camp who are alluded and brainwashed by ARY news and likewise fake news tv channels. Unfortunately majority of Pakistanis are brainwashed by the state and compelled mentally to buy the arguments done on these tv channels, despite these channels lost their case in UK and other European countries.:

2. HUMANIST TO EXTREMIST RELIGIOUS

In our village we have a mosque and practice Islam but it has nothing to do with extremism or blind following of orders for hating people from other sects or religion. There were many Hindus living in the city near us. They include very good doctors, shopkeepers, and teachers. There were ‘OAD’ who construct buildings with mud called ‘od’ in Sindhi living near our village. It was humanism, equality between all the peoples living there. Later in the 90s suddenly we see many preachers come from Punjab, they make more mosques, more offices, preach Talibanism, eventually the small libraries and places where we read books, perform cultural events vanishing. In our village mosque also an imam was appointed for prayers despite we had our own. Gradually people are brainwashed to hate others more than Muslims even other sects than Wahabis. I was not so much engaged in these activities. One reason we moved to Karachi and visited my village and city on vacations but in Karachi also there was strong propaganda everywhere which made me religious and nationalist. More than nationalism and patriotism, I was fanatically religious, practicing every prayer, taraweeh, fast in the month of Ramadan ,have a beard and was against my father’s opinion about equality. I will write in detail about this later but it influenced me a lot.    

3. RELIGIOSITY TO SPIRITUALITY AND SUFISM

Later gradually my thinking, belief system and opinion changed from extreme religious and nationalist to Sufism and socialism. I was influenced by the left, the books of Sabte Hasan made me a supporter of socialism but more than that I believed in the Sufism philosophy of equality, minimalism and simplicity. The age in which I should have been motivated or energized to work hard for making money and fame, I wanted a life of ‘a darvesh’ or ‘a faqeer’. That influence made me so lazy, lethargic and lacked the fire to ‘do something’. I was interested in study arts, literature but instead of fine arts, my father and people around me suggested strongly to pursue education in science which lead to engineering than I caught in this rope till masters, never finding any way to pursue the field i was interested from childhood. Therefore in the university of engineering and technology, I loved to create items to present as one man show in University events and was going to the library of arts university to read books and had friends there.

 In addition to this, as I was reading books on Sindhi nationalism and later learned of the true history of Pakistan, I became a proponent of human rights and a staunch supporter of secularism. I was interested in attending literature festivals, music festivals. All the way till I went to Ireland and returned to Pakistan in 2015 and till 2018 when I went to Sweden, humanism, secularism and human rights was my thing. From the end of 2018  when I became busy in delivery jobs for 2,3 years, I started listening to self help books. Watching programs about it, reading and listening to these types of books, I was addicted to this field until the start of  2022 when I stopped listening to them (It is a big story in my life and i will write on it how it brainwashed me and i hardly managed to get rid of this addiction). Now I have a hard choice to make in life whether to read and write blogs related to politics, history and social affairs  in which  

I Have keen interest and will read books (not got time from last many years and coming many years until I got visa and survival fixed) or write on spiritualism and philosophy  which is again my field of interest but loosely. The strange thing is I have an inclination to this discipline but did not save books on it except poetry by some sufi poets and a study on Hinduism, Buddhism, Zen on the internet. It will depend more on my experience of life about the second field. But I cannot diminish my interest to read books on History, Politics, Social and current affairs etc. 

There is a lot to write on this subject but I am avoiding it due to too much length of blog. Please comment, suggest and share. I will be obliged for your valuable comments. So do not hesitate to write anything you feel after reading this blog.

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Life and Figuring out meaning of Happiness

I wonder what is this life about; living for eating, drinking, walking, traveling, visiting places, serving already made relationships (parents, uncles, aunties, cousins), making relationships (friendships, marriages etc.), making a living in case if we have to, listening, reading, watching and a lot of verbs of you think of it. and then making memories of those experiences. For some we have pictures and for many we do not have like in my case due to non-availability of the camera or even non-availability of the intention to record or preserve it. Sometimes I feel so inspired, shocked and amazed how great it was. 

Like it's a natural tendency with everybody on this earth that whenever he/she thinks about his/her past he finds it better than present only except the time period of past where he/she passed through painful physical or mental suffering. But that negativity of perception also can be changed to positive thinking that it happened, but it is not happening now. Feeling it in any way you can choose. Sometimes, we are surprised by thinking about the past like 'Oh this happened to me?: "How lucky/unlucky I was", "Was it really happened or just a hallucination" and if this is concerned with another human, the percentage of believing in hallucination reduced. 

We always regard our past as a golden age. It may be due to the reason: We were children who had no responsibilities, and had to just play. In this sentence the word "have to" can have different impacts on our mind. We can think about it in many ways. One is in a pleasurable way, for example: "I have to taste that delicious pastry which I want to". The other is "I have to taste that pastry which I know may be tasty, maybe bad but presented to me by someone who I cannot refuse ". But for that age of children I think they do not "have to do" but "allowed to do" whatever they want. But later when they grew up they moved from "allowed to" to "have to". Not everybody's destined to agree with this but mostly it is the case. And later in life people are compelled by their "freeSelf" to say that " they can sacrifice all the money, fame and possession just to get that past, that golden age back". It may be like a sentence said in the movie Joker or a song sung by Jagjeet Singh and others that "get from me all my wealth and fame and give me back or return my child age". 

And remembering the past is so fascinating that it takes you out from where you are, turns your mind to shooting, relaxing and dragging you to experience a dream-like state. So when I remember my past it leaves me with surprise, astonishment and amazed at how great it was.

If I share the utopia or dream I have is that I should be at a place where I have no responsibilities towards any or if there is I do it not in compulsion but doing it happily. The place where I read books, write what I want , sip the type of liquid I want , eat the food I love, go with people I want and visit places I am fond of ,know places and theories I want to explore etc. 

Many say happiness is in giving to others like I saw a movie called ‘Sab se bara Sukh’ meaning the biggest Happiness/  . In that movie 2 friends got wealthy and started their journey to find happiness. They did everything that a human can think of getting joy, pleasure, happiness, laugh, whatever you name it but after experiencing with so many various doings, getting's and experiencing they found happiness in helping others. 

If it's helping others, is it impossible for one to make someone happy or solve his or her problem if he or she is deprived of basic needs. According to Maslow's law of hierarchy of needs, the basic needs to be fulfilled first for satisfaction and go forward with mental needs and wants. Acquiring even basic needs does not mean he or she will be happy for a long time . After accomplishment he or she could have some moments or days of happiness but again he or she is bound to feel void. And according to my experience, helping others can make you feel happy about the solution of the problem but it raises more problems when you feel 'this is the tiniest problem i have solved. if i talk about myself i was not in a good position to help others but i needed help more than that. Even if I solve someone's problem and I expect happiness in return, it is superficial. and without expectation it feels like mere work of daily monotonous routine. 

I have watched a drama in my childhood. Actually, I want to talk about it here. One was ``sukhan ji wasti' the valley of happiness or satisfaction or whatever you name it. in which a family was traveling from town to town in search of 'sukh' but they never found anywhere and the writer concluded the drama with this phrase 'there is no place in the world, where you get happiness'.

Likewise another drama in which there were 4,5 brothers. One of them was very straightforward. He lived a simple life. He was minimalist. but he got depressed and was admitted to Mental Asylum, a place for mental illness. After some months he became alright and they brought him home. He experienced that his brothers are fighting on property with each other all the time. and it makes the environment so cruel and unable to live for him like he was living peacefully in a mental asylum where he sees nothing of such type . such wars of egos. such trauma out of stress or manmade deprivation. so he decided to become mental again and this was his intention to become like that to go there. Therefore, he feels happy when he leaves his house and starts living in a mental asylum. I often resemble my personality with him. and i remember when my father did the second marriage and after my step sister, he had my step brother . after that I felt so much to ask them this 'i was the only son between 7 daughters so now you got another. please let me go . let me leave your house. it was very strange . I don't know why I am feeling this way. where I will go if I think about practical real meaning. 'So what is happiness? Of course material gain is the must for not only need but it can fulfill your wants. I was deprived and still deprived of money most of the time to even fulfill my needs but I don't know why I am not struggling so hard for that. What is that satisfaction that doesn't incite me to work hard consistently . I cannot assess how I should go for it, which is my need and want also. and can it be called satisfaction that i cannot work on it consistently or its called lethargy or laziness. or I am not finding the perfect way for it. Is there any perfect way?. also as i listen to a phrase in movie 'waking life' what is most influential character of humanity .is it Laziness or Greed but this is the main thing.  

But on some criteria, I will oppose it. In our type of society where it is stressed on family system one is obliged to do what the family wants or he is compelled psychologically to person such works or even have to think on the ‘lines  provided by his elders. In this way he is helping what his/her family wants and they become happy but he is not. He is trying to escape that mess, that prison, that obligation.  If this example is wrong, let me tell you another one. If you help someone without expectation though its hard and many cannot do it until their personality is changed after consumption of Buddhist or Christianity's example of ‘getting slap on other part of face’ )to find it.  So I do not think it's helping someone. May it work for someone but not all. 

The third and very important dimension is doing what you are supposed to do and this is the hardest thing I ever experienced but just in thinking not in action. It's because i could not due to family responsibilities etc. but i can feel that that is the real hope for getting true happiness. Let me explain it in the next blog. 

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SOME OF PITFALLS AND PROS OF “SELF-HELP books and audios”, I EXPERIENCE

 

THE DEEP INDULGENCE:

It was summer of 2021 when I was deeply indulged in reading, listening  to books, watching many many programs on self help. Some years before that I was aware of Mindvalley in 2014 or 2015. Then I was considering whether this company is assessing and looking for talented people for jobs. Later I learned that it's about healing people's stress by meditation, mind control and other psychotherapy type techniques. I listened to the founder of the company who often starts his story with being jobless, wandering in silicon valley, sleeping on the sofa not enough to sleep straight in his friend’s house for a few months and then how he becomes successful just following silva mind control methods and many other techniques and meditations he sells.  

BACKGROUND OF ATTRACTION TO MODERN SELF-HELP:

Meditation to me was sort of a spiritual practice. I have read books on it by Shamsuddin Azeemi, a Pakistani spiritual guru named ‘Muraqba’ and by Osho. Later engaged in listening to other self help motivational speakers who turned out to be different from him. 

I do not remember the exact time in my childhood or young age when I was involved in spirituality but after reading children’s magazines, Sunday magazines of newspapers, books on sufi poetry, I found a magazine called ‘Roohani Digest’. (spiritual digest). And during that time my relative and I came from Saudi Arabia. We both tried telepathy and some types of practices for these kinds of things like observing the candle light for half an hour to an hour time, reciting verses from holy books in opposite directions etc. just for fun and seeing the unknown or magic things or trying to make objects or bodies invisible. When I went through that spiritual magazine, I saw many people writing their meditation experiences of going into a world far from this earth, galaxies, space, meeting people from the past, the sages and the dead, angels and prophets. These experiences amazed me and instigated me to go through the process of excitement. In that I was also passing through psychological issues. It's a big story and I will write in another blog. I was in rage and wanted to beat or hurt my relative because he is more liked due to his cleverness or sharpness and I was disliked due to my politeness and non social attitude. But I recognized the mental issue I was facing and went to the hospital and they just gave me pills for sleeping. I was not satisfied with that so I went to the clinic, specified in spiritual digest. Actually the owner of this digest owns a clinic, a meditation center and he was son of a spiritual guru or a Sufi personality. His name was Shamsuddin Azeemi whose son Waqar Yusuf Azeemi started the clinic and digest. I went to his clinic, he gave me some medicine and told me to eat some 250g ‘jilebi’ , a sweet daily after receding something on it. Also I bought a book on meditation called ‘Muraqba’ written by his father. That was a great insightful book. Gradually I became a follower of him and I was given a task of 21 days of meditation and I had to send my experiences. I was excited to see some strange things, tour of space etc. but all this I was experiencing only at the level of imagining during meditation. Therefore, I left the practice but continued to read the digest every month. I was religious so after being fanatic like Wahabi, i became soft after reading this digest and books on Sufism and sufi personalities like ‘Kashful mahjoob’, poetry by Shah Latif, Sachal Sarmast, Baba Farid, Abdul Qadir jellani and many others. I was fond of Khalil Jibran books also but Khalil jibran, Osho and Rumi were presenting slightly different views of life and this world. Anyway, Later from 2008 I was following Ghamidi, Zakir Naik type of religious preachers, programs on tv like ‘alif’, ‘mazahib aur aqle insani’(religions and human intellect) etc  and in 2015-2016 I read ‘Power of now’ and then ‘The new earth’ by same author Ekhart Tolle. I watched a full series on her book by Oprah Winfrey show. I was watching ‘Leo gura’ , a YouTube channel that was influenced by Hindu philosophy. Later I read books by Wayne Dyer, Gary Zuko, listened to Deepak Chopra, Brian Tracy, Sandeep Maheshwari and many others. When I read books by Vishen Lakhiani of mind valley, listened to his talks in addition to talks by Tom Biliyu, Tony Robbins and then read books ‘Atomic habits’, ‘Think and Grow Rich’, ‘I will make you rich’, ‘I will make you thin’, ‘Monk who sold his ferrari’, ‘Budha and Badass’, 5 Seconds Rule, and books like these’, I found them very different than the writers and speakers i was listening before. But I was addicted to listening to them very often and tried what they suggested. For many months I was confused between the first series of people who recommend calmness, patience, everything come by its own, law of attraction, selfless behavior, service to people, detachment etc on the other hand the later incite to go hard with yourself to achieve goals, success, fame, scheduling, strict routine. During all those many years, I was amazed and felt at top when listening to them. It was like I made a bubble of utopia and I was visiting there while listening to these or reading such books. But in reality nothing has changed. I remember in childhood or young age, I had a set routine and I was doing the stuff regularly but when I read a few books by Dale Karneigi, it intrigued me to leave the routine and become free from doing stuff regularly. Many years later, I realized that his teaching ruined my life. I became lazy, lethargic and found refuge and crux of life in just release of dopamine by watching comedy, sensual type of videos and addicted to porn. I had a directionless life. These books incited me to give it direction but the ‘Why’, meaning and purpose of life’ etc. was still not clear to me. I was making plans, goals but double minded and  thinking to pursue or not pursue and importantly why pursue when some other spiritual guru says another thing. Then just taken away by the talk, a book and after that back to the same feeling of unease. It was like a booze time which elevates me and then when I wake up to see what has changed in my life. It was less than nothing. I was with my family, had to survive and support them but could not devise any way to make money. When one searches for motivational speakers, google opens a list of some of the above people but in the same category . But I would say that there are two categories; spiritual and self help. Spirituality to me is ‘you are not yourself  but a being. Here the ‘self’ means ego form which you can get rid of .You have to just surrender, be kind to yourself and others, be passionate, love what you do, and be what you naturally are and there is a higher power who will take care of all the other matters including survival and financial. On the other hand, self help is ‘help or take actions no matter if it's against your bodily or mental nature, be hard on yourself to become something you want. There is no higher power but you and only you who can change your trajectory’. Briefly If I write what I learned from both the categories,  i would say what spirituality offers is:

Stress-free life.(If you understand and experience deeply, you will find a space in you, which is so huge that it can take all your worries, tensions, anxiety and it left you empty to react to any matter or person. It's a complete surrender. It regard life as a dream, a game or an experience)  

On the other hand all the later personalities i have stated above incite you to do things for which you are not destined to do or reach there. It may sound like it is deviating your thoughts from rationality but it defines rationality in a different broader perspective.

If one looks for solutions and way out to problems and worries of life. Self help only motivates you to plan and act but one never knows how it elevates or boosts you for some time like a virtual reality. This time can be years. If I talk about my experience with it, it wastes my time of many years and energy. It has taken my precious time which I could spend with my family. It has played a vital role in disconnecting me from the people around me. It restricts me from making genuine friends and engaging with them. I felt a false sense of pride  and uniqueness which differs me from others regarding my behavior to other people. Even it may hinder one to serve others selflessly because it encourages to always look for ‘material benefit’ in whatever you do and incites to look for ‘what's in it for me’ in every walk of life. It may encourage serving but it is more related to self importance .

THE CONFUSION OR CROSSING PATHS:

Some spiritual gurus make you believe that being polite, truthful, down to earth, kind to one’s self and others thinking that nature has devised some laws which if followed, one can be satisfied with life and be in a state of joy all the time.
They teach that no matter what happens, Nature is taking care of all like a mother to her child. This is a big debate of free will and choice. If one wants he or she can develop those thoughts in mind and they present the same one except if followed properly. But again one can easily detach from  the teachings of Alan Watts, Ekhart Tolle, Wayne Dyer when he listens to Mel Robbins, Tony Robbins or Tom Biliyu.

My advice on all this after experience of years that stop wasting time and energy listening, watching and doing what all they say. Just read some books, conclude it in your own way and continue doing what is your passion from childhood, not let it be nurtured by fake goals, objectives, ambitions or purposes which are far or against or different from your nature. It includes your both mental and bodily natural inclinations. It doesn't end here. This is a very vast subject to be discussed, debated and explored.

    Thankyou for reading. Comments and suggestions will be highly appreciated which give rise to the engagement I deprive of in my life.